I have learned a few things in therapy. The first lesson was setting boundaries and sticking to them. The next lesson – was learning that it is okay to be picky as hell when it comes to my future. This to me sounds like I’m getting set into my ways, but now I’m realizing that had I been picky from the start, there’s a high chance I wouldn’t be where I am now. So here are a few of my dealbreakers:
Family Oriented – I want a man that is fully ready to embrace family life. Being a single mom is tough. I am fully capable of doing things on my own. I don’t need a man. I want a man that wants to join my family and love all of us or none of us.
Non Smoker/Drugs – I looked the other way and this one bit me in the ass big time. I got burned by someone who put drugs above their partner and family.
Education/Career – This shows motivation and dedication. I don’t want someone who cannot keep a job or job hops often. I value education, so it would be nice to have someone with a similar outlook on this point.
These are some main non-negotiable topics for me. I have some others in mind that are more on the nice to have, but not something worth being strict about.
Please tell me you’re picky too!
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