Bumble Boy

I met a guy on a app who on paper in those first few conversations seemed great, until he kept talking.

This guy was going through a divorce as well. We went to the same college (but didn’t confirm that he didn’t graduate from there). He lost a parent like I did. We both have daughters. Then he started painting an image of him that just didn’t add up.

Here are a few of the reasons why I kindly asked him to stop contacting me:

Double Standard – we were never “exclusive”, but we did talk about pausing our swipes while I was hanging with a friend over a weekend. I didn’t realize that my account only paused for a few days and not indefinitely. When I shared this he got upset. Fast forward a week, this guy never paused his profile and was actively messaging girls. I wasn’t upset that he was actively using it. It’s the lies!

False information regarding his kids. Not to get into details, but he told me his wife wasn’t allowing him to see his kids. Turns out that’s false. His wife wasn’t this monster he made her out to be.

Gaslighter 101. A lot of our conversations, he would say something that he claimed “you took that the wrong way” or “I didn’t mean it like that”. Well dude, you said it – not me.

Final straw – he felt the need to comment on my family situation, especially on topics regarding my daughter. At the end of the day, my ex husband and I will always be family for the sake of our daughter. We don’t have to be best of friends, but we are family. I don’t appreciate anyone giving me unsolicited advice – especially if they are negatively talking about my decision and my family.

All in all, this guy constantly said “I’m a good guy”. Good people don’t need to always state that they are good people. I enjoyed talking to someone who was in a similar situation. It helped me realize that I wasn’t alone. Until I realized that he was causing me more stress. I have enough drama in my life, I am not willing to take on anyone else’s.

And that’s the quick story of bumble boy. A dating disaster.